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The Annual Look Back

March 14, 2009

Jason rather pointedly asked me this morning if I remembered what today was.  I thought shopping for appliances was somewhat exciting but not exciting enough for a ‘do you remember’.

Turns out, he was talking about something completely different.  NOW I remember what today is & it IS a very important milestone.

Two years ago today we met this precious baby girl.

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We had been in Hanoi for a few days, spending time with these people, whom we love.

It would have been an unbearable trip without the C~ family

It would have been an unbearable trip without the C~ family

We were missing these guys more than we thought humanly possible.

Who would not miss these guys?

Who wouldn't miss these guys?

But we were enjoying exploring this wonderful city.

Streets of Hanoi, from our hotel

Streets of Hanoi, from our hotel

And in the end, it was worth every tear.

Finally a Family of Five

Finally a Family of Five

We love you so much!

Tova Two Years Later

K~

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Soccer Saturday

April 7, 2008

I ran out of time to post over the weekend so you’ll get a little bit of the finer points of the weekend.

Gavin’s soccer went really well. His teammates all know each other from either preschool or from older sibling pickup at school. It’s nice in the sense that they all get along, but the flip side is that they have no reservations about jumping on each other. Our friends JJ & N~ are coaching which is fun. Gavin kicked the ball a few times, mostly out of bonds. He told Jason at one point that when he runs into the crowd, he throws his elbows to get the other kids out of the way. Such a contrast from Ethan. We had to tell Ethan that in soccer it was okay to take the ball away from the other kids. It was the one place he thought appropriate to share ;-)

Ethan was fairly annoying during soccer. I know it’s a bit much to expect him to appreciate the 2 years Gavin went to Ethan’s soccer games without complaint, but Ethan started complaining as soon as we hit the soccer fields. It would have been nice for him to watch the game for at least 30 seconds. Ethan spent most of the game wrestling with our neighbor G~ whose brother is on Gavin’s team. Ethan wanted to go to the playground but there is a death slide & it was too far away for me to keep a decent eye on him. I think there is usually at least one broken bone during soccer from that stupid slide. Anyway, I enjoyed watching Gavin play, & ignoring Ethan until his wrestling match started to infringe on the neighboring field & Tova was an angel, of course :-)

After soccer, the boys went with Jason to work & Tova went with C~ while I took my mom to CSS to meet my dad. My mom spent all week at our house sick. My dad had to go home on Wed. & my mom wasn’t feeling well enough to travel. I felt bad for her. No one wants to be sick away from home. Especially at the home of grandchildren who think Privacy is optional. By Friday, Mom was feeling better & was able to go to soccer with us on Saturday. I’m glad at least one grandparent was able to see Gavin play.

Yesterday, 4.6.08, was our one year mark of being home. We landed at O’Hare on 4.6.07 & the boys met their little sister for the first time. Seeing the boys after a month long separation was one of those experiences I cannot accurately describe but remembering it always brings me to tears. Those were the sweetest hugs & kisses I’ve ever had from my boys.

K~

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Disappointing the Kids & Looking Back

March 13, 2008

Sending Freddy back to the Animal Shelter is a lot harder than I imagined it would be. Last night I was fine with it. Of course, I was up until almost 1AM steam cleaning the carpet in our bedroom & the hallway.  I was just so disappointed at how this was turning out. The boys cried & cried last night during prayers & the run up to bedtime. I hated having to do this to them. They were so excited to be able to pick out a cat & to name him. It was a big deal to them. I was about Ethan’s age when I got my first cat so I can understand how they felt. Disappointing the kids is always hard, but this was really tough for me. So tough that I spent most of the morning crying & had to have Jason come home to take Freddy back to the shelter. I’m sure I wouldn’t have been able to do it without some major waterworks.

I also feel a little like I failed the cat. I realize I can’t change his spraying behaviour, it’s a normal part of being an intact male cat. I just can’t accept the odds that he won’t spray again, even after he’s fixed. I lived with cat pee a lot longer than I ever thought I would with Rudy & I just can’t start out with Freddy doing the same thing, normal or not. I’m not looking for the perfect cat but I do have 3 criteria; playful, cuddly, & pee’s in litter box. Freddy had 2 of the 3 qualities. Unfortunately, the peeing isn’t something we’ll be able to screen for without putting in some time. I figure in about a week I’ll call the shelter back & let them know what we’re looking for (female already fixed, & with above qualities) & hope they’ll keep us in mind as new cats come in.

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One year ago, on 3.10.07, Jason & I left home to fly half way around the world to adopt our wonderful daughter Tova. I’m feeling a little nostalgic so bear with me as the next few weeks will have a periodic look back at our trip.

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Last year on this date, Jason & I were settling into our hotel, the Hoang Ngoc 2, & preparing to meet the other OO families already in Hanoi. On 3.13.07 we would have met our dear friends Allie & Kevin at our first meeting with OO’s facilitators & then gone out to supper with Kevin & Allie later that day at Hoa Sua (excellent carmelized pork). We had no idea of the journey we were about to embark together. What we did know was that on 3.14.07 we would be meeting our baby girls for the first time. I’m thinking that tomorrow will be heavy on the pictures ;-)

K~

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Homework

March 4, 2008

Every afternoon we go over Ethan’s homework. Nothing major, we just go over his mistakes & correct them. Today he brought home this gem.

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He’s supposed to draw a line to what time of day the girl made her bed. When Jason asked Ethan what she was doing, Ethan said that she was getting into bed. Jason said, “No, she’s making her bed.” Ethan looked at the correct response that was circled on his paper and said, “Why would she make her bed in the morning? We do that in the afternoon.” (I use making beds as a chore they can earn for misbehaviour. I never realized it might affect their schoolwork) ;-)

We’re getting ready for our big trip to Memphis for Spring Break this weekend. We’ll leave Friday & head to St Louis. On Saturday we’ll continue on to Memphis after a stop at Lambert’s Cafe in Sikeston MO. The highlight of the weekend will be on Sunday when we reunite with the Norman’s, a family from our travel group. We’re so excited to see Elise & Patrick & to meet their son David. But we’re especially excited to reunite Tova with her Phu Tho Sister Hannah. Here’s the two girls almost a year ago.

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We’ll spend the day at the Memphis Zoo to see the Panda’s. But most importantly, we’ll have a fun day with some great friends. We’ll be home by Tuesday, so it’s a short trip, but Jason & I felt we needed to go somewhere and do something resembling a vacation. The boys are satisfied with a pool but I REALLY want some warmer weather. After Monday’s 40° temperature drop, I’m not sure Spring will ever come.

K~

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Trip Home Recap

April 7, 2007
SATURDAY, APRIL 07, 2007 03:45 AM, CDT

Our trip home was very uneventful. We left our hotel around 10pm & arrived at
NoiBai
Airport in
Hanoi about 10:30pm on Thursday. We checked in & spent the rest of our Dong on overpriced airport souvenirs. No one was willing to change money so we had to spend it in order to use it. On both flights we had a bassinet seat. On the first flight it gave us a lot more leg room, the second flight a little more leg room, but most importantly, a place to put Tova. She likes being held, but not for 23 hours straight.

Our layover in
Seoul was spent sleeping. Jason had slept some of the flight from
Hanoi, but I couldn’t sleep so I was feeling pretty awful. I had hoped that by leaving
Hanoi I could do away with my morning routine of feeling sick, but I guess not. Tova slept most of the flight from Seoul to
Chicago. It seems any sort of movement will put her to sleep. It was neat to see the sun rise twice on Friday, once as we were arriving in
Seoul & another time as we were heading over the West Coast. The other great thing about our seats was that we were among the first off the plane. Jason had this plan of getting us off the plane fast & booking it to emigration. You should have seen him pushing the old women aside as he ran down the hall towards emigration! It worked though. The whole emigration process took about 20minutes. It took us longer to get our luggage. After we gathered all our belongings & cleared customs we pushed open the doors to the waiting area & saw no one. Our flight got in pretty early & my parents weren’t scheduled to arrive until around noon. We took the opportunity to freshen up. While Jason was in the bathroom I was staring aimlessly down the room when I saw someone who looked like C~.  I didn’t believe it at first but once he got closer, it was definitely him. It was so wonderful to see a face from home. J~ arrived shortly after that & we had a wonderful reunion with two of Tova’s godparents. We were so touched that they had made the trip to the
Chicago to welcome us home.

We waited for what seemed like an eternity, but it was probably only 20 minutes for Ethan & Gavin & the rest of my family to arrive. Those first hugs & kisses with the boys are something I will always cherish. I can’t describe what it was like to see them again. There are no words for how wonderful it was. After letting us smother them, they had their chance to see & hold Tova. After a year & a half of adoption processes, it was indescribable to see our 3 children together. My whole family was wearing special t-shirts that said “Welcome Home Tova.” Ethan & Gavin’s had “Big Brother” on the back too. The boys had also made signs. It was a wonderful homecoming.

I’m not sure what my parents fed the boys but they look huge! Especially Gavin. I think he grew a foot. We had expected him to look bigger but my word, he’s HUGE!

Tova did okay in the carseat. She’d never seen one before & we had expected a lot of complaining. She did some crying but I think it was more because she was tired & no one was holding her more than objecting to being strapped in. We arrived home around 6:30pm. The boys immediately went for their toys. Charlie & Rudy were happy to see us, but not overwhelming in their enthusiasm. A sure sign that they were well taken care of. I think Charlie is sad to see Natalie go back to her own place. At least with Natalie, she got regular walks. The cat has gotten nicer still. I think we need to leave her more often!

Our plans for the weekend are to have Tova baptized. We had planned on doing the baptism Easter Sunday before we left & earlier this week we weren’t sure we were going to make it home for the big event. My family is here through the weekend & Jason’s family arrives tomorrow afternoon. The baptism is at 8:30am at the church on Grant street if anyone is interested in joining us.

We can’t wait to share Tova with everyone who has supported us through this journey. Your prayers, support & encouragement carried us through a lot of trying times & we cannot thank you enough. We have been blessed beyond measure by each of you. As it says in Philippians 1:3 ‘I thank my God every time I remember you.’ We truly do.

Kristen

PS. You don’t need to say it, I know I lost a lot of weight. I never intended on reaching the 120’s again but I did & I’m not happy with the results. I’m exhausted, weak, & mostly frustrated because I love to eat! Do you know what it’s like to go to Cracker Barrel & have the smell make you feel nauseous? I could only get down about 3 bites of a wonderful blueberry muffin this afternoon. I know how I look & I feel worse, so don’t worry, I’m trying really hard to eat but nagging will get you no where!

We’ll try to get more pictures up on the flickr account very soon. Remember that Tova is a 3rd child so pictures of her will be a little slower & a lot less frequent.

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Ahhhh! HOME!

April 6, 2007
FRIDAY, APRIL 06, 2007 08:19 PM, CDT

We made it back to Rural City around 6:30pm. We’re so happy to be home & to be with Ethan & Gavin. It was a wonderful reunion. Jason, Tova & I are exhausted. I’ll try to post more tomorrow when the jet lag fog clears.

Kristen

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Heading East

April 5, 2007
THURSDAY, APRIL 05, 2007 08:16 PM, ICT

We’re on our way HOME!!!!!!!

We leave the hotel in about 2 hours!

Kevin, Allie, & Jodie leave tomorrow too. It was a wonderful day. We’re so relieved that they get to leave too.

We had a wonderful send off with the other OO families. We were able to get a group picture of all the babies & families.

We’re most excited than we can say & are so happy to be on our way.

We’ll try to update again from Seoul but if we don’t, we’ll see you on the other side!

Kristen

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Last Steps & Prison

April 4, 2007
WEDNESDAY, APRIL 04, 2007 10:18 PM, ICT

 

Tova was born to be a 3rd child. She will not get lost in the commotion in our house because she is LOUD! When she talks, the whole hotel can hear her. She & Jason went down one floor to visit another family & I could hear when she decided she’d had enough & was ready to eat. She wasn’t crying, just complaining. This is a girl who will not be forgotten. She was awake a lot more today too. I think she was worn out with all the growing she’s been doing the last few weeks. It was great to spend a couple of hours playing with her on the bed. She is really going to love her brothers. They should keep her entertained for hours.

We had a successful embassy appointment this afternoon. It was short & sweet. We met with Joyce again & she had Jason swear that our documents were true to the best of our knowledge & that we would have Tova immunized when we returned home. The next step is for the Dept. of Homeland Security to run Tova’s picture through their Terrorist Facial Recognition Database. If she clears that, her Visa will be ready tomorrow at 4pm. I’m trying really hard not to think about computer glitches, power outages, etc. The pessimist in me just won’t die!

If all goes as planned, we will be on our flight to
Seoul at 1am on Friday morning. We’ll arrive in Seoul around 7am & board our flight to Chicago at1pm arriving in
Chicago at 10:40am the same day. We’re terribly anxious to see Ethan & Gavin. We can’t wait to smother them with hugs & kisses. We bought a couple of t-shirts for them tonight & we had trouble deciding on sizes. It’s been almost a month since we’ve seen them, who knows how much they’ve grown! We borrowed a 3yo from the shop owner & he helped us to decide sizes.

The other items on our agenda for today were to visit Hoa Lo prison, otherwise known as the Hanoi Hilton, & shopping. The prison was very interesting. It was originally built by the French to house Vietnamese patriots & revolutionary fighters during France’s war in
Vietnam. During ‘The American War’ the prison was used to house American POW’s, the most famous being John McCain. The propaganda was insane. A brochure described a POW’s day as if it were a day at summer camp. The POW’s supposedly had crafts, music, gardening, & chicken farming to keep them occupied. I bet the former POW’s might have different memories of their time at Hoa Lo.

We had our most expensive meal to date tonight too. The food was great though. I had a wonderful bowl of Ham Pesto & Jason had a Panini. The bread at this place was really good. Definitely worth it. After supper we finished our shopping. The weather was perfect today. It was in the 60’s, low humidity & a little breezy. Very nice weather for walking around with a little heater strapped to your chest.

The boys have been informed that we are finally coming home. I guess my dad told Gavin something special was going to happen on Friday. Gavin guessed he’d be getting a new toy. Dad said, no, he was getting a mommy. Gavin heard Mummy & was very excited. Dad clarified that he wasn’t getting a toy; he was getting his mommy, daddy & Tova. Gavin said he would rather have a toy. Here I was so worried about them missing us & feeling homesick. Who knew we could be so easily replaced!

Kristen

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The Roller Coaster Continues

April 3, 2007
TUESDAY, APRIL 03, 2007 08:31 PM, ICT

 

Where do we start? How about WHAT A DAY! We woke up this morning thinking it was my last day in
Hanoi. The tears flowed early but we got ourselves put back together & took a taxi to the embassy to do our Power of Attorney form. Our taxi driver took us the scenic route & dropped us off at the wrong place. An ominous start for sure. We eventually found the ‘

Rose
Garden
Building’ & proceeded up to the citizen’s services room. We asked for a notary, paid $30 for the service & while we were waiting for the notary we asked a few questions. One was about extending our Visa’s, the other was if there was any info yet on our I-600 application. The guy helping us went to get Joyce, she did our first interview, & she told us that she hadn’t seen anything come back yet but she would check. While we were talking to her, another woman grabbed Jason’s passport & took it to the back. We were still chatting with Joyce when the woman returned with WONDERFUL news, our I-600 was approved. If there hadn’t been bullet proof glass in between us, I think I would have kissed Joyce & her co-worker. The other woman said we had an appointment for tomorrow at 2:30pm & Joyce said she’d see us tomorrow. They refunded our notary fee & we left the building on Cloud 9. It was unreal to think that we had come to the embassy preparing for me to leave & we end up with the best possible news. We headed back to our hotel & ran into the new OO families & made plans to meet for lunch.

We had a wonderful meal at a TexMex place called Al Fresco’s. Kevin, Allie, & Jodie were able to meet the new babies, Ella, Hannah, & Lorrell. We had a great time. At the beginning of the meal all the mommies had the babies, by the end they had moved to the daddies. Jason & I were celebrating, Kevin & Allie were too. We assumed since our interviews were on the same day, & same time they would be having their interview tomorrow as well. New babies & going home, how could the day get any better?

After lunch, Jason, Tova & I went with Kevin, Allie & Jodie to look into changing our plane tickets. We were able to get seats to fly from Hanoi to Seoul to
Chicago on Friday, 4.6. The flight from Chicago to
Moline was full so we are on standby. We of course won’t wait for that flight, the boys & their drivers will just meet us at O’Hare. After that ticket search we went in search of tickets to the water puppets. We got tickets to a 4pm show & decided to head to the Coughlin’s hotel/home to check for messages. There was a message about doing Visa extensions. Not what we wanted to hear. We also were beginning to wonder about our appointment. We hadn’t heard from Dat yet about delivering Tova’s documents to the embassy. When Jason called Dat, he said he hadn’t done the delivery yet because he hadn’t received confirmation of our appointment. At that time, we were the only ones who had been told we had an appointment for our Visa. It was making us wonder if we had made it up & we were anxious to find out what was going on.

It would have to wait until after the water puppets. Tova stayed with the Coughlin’s while we went to the show. The puppet show was held in a two foot deep pool. The puppeteers were behind a bamboo curtain & the puppets were suspended on long sticks. I’m not sure how they were able to work them. They did short vignettes. One story was about the turtle in

Hoan
Kiem
Lake, another was about a cat & some ducks, there was one about a Harvest Festival, & there were lots of fire breathing dragons. It was a very unique show. When we got back to the Coughlin’s we learned that Tova is very attached to us. She cried quite a bit while we were gone & tried to reach for me when she saw me. I guess attachment doesn’t take as long as we thought! We hung out with the Coughlin’s for a while, trying to figure out why we supposedly had an appointment, but they did not. We have gone through every single part of this process together. Our appointments have been on the same days & at the same times. We really wanted to finish our trip together with a final meal in the

Seoul
Airport. We’ve become such close friends, & we hate the thought of leaving them behind.

When we returned to our hotel we had a call from Dat. We were really hoping it would end our confusion, do we have an appointment or not? Finally, some great news! Our final interview is tomorrow at 2:30pm. We will be able to pick up Tova’s Visa on Thursday after 4pm & be on our way to the airport by 10pm. We finally see the light at the end of the tunnel!

It was such a crazy day. We are so thankful that we are almost done. Only 2 more days! I think we can handle that!

Kristen

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Day 21

April 1, 2007
SUNDAY, APRIL 01, 2007 08:38 PM, ICT

Greetings all! Day 21 is just about in the books here. We have made it through another weekend. Tova is really starting to show her personality. Much of its manifestation is through fighting sleep and letting you know that she is angry. I just finished feeding her but prior to that, she was letting me know that I wasn’t getting it ready fast enough. She reminds me a lot of Gavin in her temper. He will act in a similar way when he wants to get things done his way.

We started this morning by meeting Kevin, Alison, & Jodie for the circus. It was quite an enjoyable time. To give you the run-down, I had looked up the price last night and was expecting to pay 15,000VND per person for the Sunday morning kids performance. As we approached the ticket counter, I could see that the website I had found was out of date and it was now 20,000. No big deal. Then a woman comes up to us in front of the ticket booth and hands us each a ticket that shows 20,000 on the face. She grabs a 50,000VND bill from another lady to indicate that this is what we should pay. Kevin gave that much and so did I, we thought, for two tickets each. However, when she got to Kristen, she motioned that she should be paying 50,000 too. We shook our heads and I got close enough to the booth to point to the 20,000 price. The ticket lady, in turn, pointed to the weekday price, which was 50,000. I pointed again at the Sunday morning price and then she pointed at the kids price, which was 20,000, indicating that I was looking at the wrong price. A third time I pointed at the Sunday morning price of 20,000VND so she kept our 50,000 and disgustedly motioned for us to go. Wow! What fun! Then on our way into the arena, a bus chock full of elementary school kids pulled up making noise and smiling and waving to us and the girls. They were very excited. We were about 20 minutes early and walked into the 2,000 seat arena and were about the only people there. We watched as many busloads of kids filled the seats and the show began. The first three-quarters of the 1.5 hour show was acrobats and dancers and clowns. It was pretty good show. A couple performances stood out: one was the group of seven men who worked with two 25 foot vertical poles. They would climb up and do various acrobatic movements from one pole to the other and back. What made us catch our breath was seeing them grip the poles with their legs while face down to the ground at the top. They would release their grip a bit and slide to ground face first. Naturally, they would grab with their legs in time so that they were about a foot from the ground when they stopped. That was a common method for them to dismount. It was pretty cool. The other acts of note were the monkeys and elephants. These were the only two animal acts, for which we are thankful. We are pretty sure that PETA wasn’t in the back checking out the living conditions of these animals. The monkeys looked bored, scared, and were handled by leashes around their necks. They weren’t given treats like the circus animals that we have seen in the past and instead were incented through the fear of punishment, it seemed. They did ride bikes, which was pretty cool. The elephants did their thing but they didn’t look too happy to be doing it.

After the circus, we went to Lenin Park. It was a nice park by a lake to walk around for a bit.

We went back to the hotel where K & T rested after lunch while I hunted for formula. I found some. We then went out for supper and have now crashed for the evening.

We did receive a bit of sad news this morning. Kristen’s grandmother died Saturday in Texas of pneumonia. She was 90. It is disappointing for Kristen because she would really like to go the funeral but obviously cannot. She doesn’t get to see her family much and her grandma even less so I think it would have been a good thing for her to do. We won’t be able to go but some things can’t be helped.

As for more thoughts, we finally had sun this weekend. Today was the third sunny day since we have been here and was the hottest as well. It seems that every time we get back to the hotel these days, we need to change clothes. One of us is wearing a backpack and the other is wearing Tova in a sling. It makes for much sweat! I would also say that we seem to be getting a comfort level about us here. We can find our way around without the guidebook and aren’t intimidated by traffic and people trying to sell us books, videos, motorbike rides, cyclo rides, fruit, hats, candy, flowers, or to stop in their restaurant. We are able to keep moving when people begin to ask us questions about Tova. Many will ask if she is from VN or ask how old she is. We always answer with a smile that she is from here and that she is four months old. Granted, she is not yet 4 but it keeps the lectures to a minimum! That’s all for now.

Have a great Palm Sunday, one of my favorite Sundays of the year. Also, happy April Fools’ Day.

Jason